A Podcast to Help Make Your Dream Come True ...
Does money stop you from pursuing your dream? In this podcast, we talk about what’s possible.
Ways you can manage your finances to create the life you want. How you can change the way you view money, make it, spend it, and save it in order to live a purpose-driven life.
Whether your dream is to become a single mother by choice, to travel the world, to start a business, or simply to feel financially secure, you’ve come to the right place.
Host Debra Jacobs, Ed.M., is a financial coach who has made her own dream a reality – more than once. In interviews and solo episodes, she shares inspirational stories, empathy, and actionable advice.
In this interview with Parent Coach Kiran Gaind, we talk about the financial stories from our childhoods that can inform the actions we take to pursue our dreams.
We also focus on entitlement: how a sense of entitlement can get in the way of pursuing our dream, and how we can help our children grow up without a feeling of entitlement – even when we’re raising them in an affluent community.
One nugget of wisdom from Kiran: “What if there’s no such thing as ‘fail,’ only ‘learn’?”
Kiran has been a Certified Parent, Life, and Leadership Coach for 10 years, a certified teacher for over 20 years, and an organizational change agent and re-designer for 18 years.
She’s also been a mom since 2009 (and always knew she wanted to be one, since she was a little girl).
Kiran taught in, redesigned and turned around urban, diverse k-12 schools for 12 years. She was chosen as the first advisor of her beloved student’s Black Student Union at San Francisco’s Burton High School in 1999, before it was mainstream to work towards diversity, equity, and inclusion.
She received her Masters in Organization Development in 2020, during a global pandemic, has been published in the Huffington Post and elsewhere, and is working on her first book and TED Talk.
Kiran teaches her Resilient Success System 4-Pillar Method at the Jewish Family and Children’s Services in Palo Alto, and gives parent education talks in the Bay Area and beyond to groups at schools, companies, community centers and on zoom.
In her work with parents, Kiran draws from her own research as well as from the work of many other experts she has trained with and whose models she integrates.
Resources mentioned in the episode:
Gayle King’s interview with Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan
What are you waiting for? Life is short, and the time to start pursuing your dream is NOW.
In this episode, Debra talks about the choice you can make to live your own life – that you create – or to “sleep-live.” She also reviews the three steps to take now to develop the financial ability to pursue your dream.
Don’t let money hold you back! If you want it badly enough, there’s a way to make it happen.
Blog post mentioned in this episode: Tim Urban’s “The Tail End“ on the Wait But Why blog.
Is your dream to become a parent as a single person, or if you have a partner but you’re experiencing infertility?
In this episode, Debra discusses the different ways people become single parents by choice or form a family in the face of infertility, including pursing assisted conception or adopting.
She jumps into the emotional and practical challenges of each method and outlines the costs.
Then she offers different ideas for cutting the costs of those paths and/or raising the money to cover them without going into debt.
Even if you’re not a high income earner, there ARE ways to make your dream come true.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Financial Planner Meghan Dwyer joins Debra to discuss some of the deep issues women face around money:
- When reality differs from what we’ve been taught to expect
- When we may not feel worthy or deserving of high incomes or financial successs
- When deeply embedded cultural stories inform the way we view ourselves and our financial lives.
They start out talking financial planning and coaching, but soon jump into the meatier money mindset issues.
In addition to being a financial planner, Meghan is a podcaster, wife, mom, and runner.
As a financial planner, she has seen women way too often take a backseat when it comes to their family’s finances. Meghan believes it is crucial for us as women to have knowledge and to understand our personal finances in order to feel confident and empowered to live our best lives.
Meghan started the Money Isn’t Scary podcast last year to help women unpack the deeply embedded stories we have been telling ourselves and reframe our mindset so that we can begin to spend, save and act in alignment with our intentions. Only when we are truly in tune with our relationship with money can we begin to be our best selves.
You can also find Meghan on Instagram at moneyisntscary.
In this episode, Debra outlines the six steps she takes with clients who are working on making their dream a financial reality, from creating the vision, to gaining clarity about their current financial situation, to mapping out the costs of realizing the dream, to taking “radical action,” and more.
Most things are possible with determination, commitment, and a willingness to live differently from the norm.
What are you willing to do?
In this episode, learn about out-of-the-box ideas for saving significant amounts of money on the journey to single motherhood by choice, and as a single mom. Sarah Kowalski – single mom by choice, fertility doula, life coach, and author – shares her journey and the brave moves she made.
Sarah has been coaching women at every stage of the single mom by choice journey for 7 years.
Her own arduous path to motherhood inspired her to combine her expertise as a life coach, lawyer and patient’s rights advocate with her passion for teaching mind-body practices such as Feldenkrais and Qigong. Through this unique blend of training and experience, she helps women quiet the voice of doubt and redefine what it means to be a mother so they can embrace their unique path to motherhood.
Through Sarah’s one on one coaching, support groups, and membership community, she helps you put down the fairy tales, lessen your anxiety and open to your own unique path to motherhood so you can proudly embrace an unconventional path.
Sarah’s work has been featured in Harper’s Bazaar, Scary Mommy, PopSugar, First For Women, ESME.com (Empowering Solo Moms Everywhere), One Bad Mother Podcast, Red Tricycle, Huffington Post, and MindBodyGreen.
To join Sarah’s brand-new community for single mothers by choice, the Motherhood Reimagined SMC Community, click here. I’m joining and hope to see you there!
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We all make mistakes. Looking back, it’s easy to see where we could have done better – but when we’re in the thick of it, we have a harder time making good decisions.
This week, I’m letting you in on my own personal mess-ups: the five biggest mistakes I made when my kids were younger.
Two of these mistakes were financial, the other three were parenting mistakes.
Yes, of course I made more mistakes as a parent than these five – but these are the five big ones.
I’m getting up close and personal this week so you can benefit from my experience, and hopefully do better.
In the episode, I mention Holding Time by Martha Welch, M.D. Proceed with caution!
Reducing expenses will help you create the life you want – but bringing in more money is equally important.
How can you create new income streams to save the money you need to realize your dream of becoming a single mother by choice, or to create the life you want for yourself and your kids?
It’s not easy, especially when you’re a single mom already pressed for time. But it’s possible, and you can do it.
In this episode, we review ways to raise quick money, to create longer-term side businesses, and to increase your salary.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
We all have money stories – thoughts that inform the way we approach our finances.
What are your stories? Are they holding you back from facing your financial situation and from working towards achieving your dreams?
In this episode, we go over 10 common limiting money stories – from scarcity to feeling like “the poor kid” to the Cinderella Syndrome, and more – and talk about ways to face these thoughts and begin writing new stories.
Changing your thoughts won’t magically change your life, but will open the path to actions that WILL result in major change.
Note: The money stories in this episode are numbered – but for some reason I skipped from 6 to 8. You’re not crazy – there’s no number 7!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
After working all day and taking care of your kids, the rest of life can feel overwhelming.
From paying bills to doing the dishes to making the hundreds of decisions that you have to make as a parent and simply as an adult – life can feel out of control. Often we respond by ignoring things, which we all know leads to bigger problems in the long run.
In this episode, we discuss five easy-to-implement tips for making your life run more smoothly – financially and otherwise.
Resources mentioned in the episode:
- The Greenspan Floortime approach
- The Lazy Genius
- Article about decision fatigue
- ThredUp online consignment and thrift store
- National Alliance on Mental Illness article about finding free or low-cost mental health care
You really want a dog, or your kids are relentless in asking for one.
As a single mom, should you do it? Can you manage it between work and parenting your kids by yourself?
How much will it cost?
In this episode, we go over everything you need to think about before making the decision. We’ll also discuss things to think about if you already have a dog and you’re pregnant or about to adopt.
Resources mentioned in the episode:
Budgeting can feel scary, daunting, and time-consuming, and when you’re a single mom focusing on your job and your kids, it’s something you likely ignore.
But budgeting can actually be freeing. It can give you a structure for financial decisions that lightens your load.
In this episode, learn how to budget in a way that will work for you. Yes, you’ll have some initial set-up and leg work to do, but once you have the system in place, you won’t need to track your money every day or spend hours entering every little expense.
You’ll finally have an easy way to get on top of your finances!
Resources mentioned in the episode:
If you have a teenager, or a younger child who will one day become a teenager, don’t miss this episode!
It’s full of important information and strategies for relationship-based parenting through the teen years.
– Ways to build and maintain strong relationships with your teen
– What to do when they lash out and say hurtful things
– The pressure of school and the crazy, toxic push towards college
– Sex, drugs, and your teenager
– When your teen lies to you
– Anxiety and teenagers
– The dangers of “rescuing” your teen
Here are links to resources mentioned in the episode:
Anne Fisher and the Family Dinner Project
Excellent Sheep by William Deresiewicz
Life changed for Kim Williams when she found herself pregnant as a sophomore in college.
She went through a period of doubt and depression, then pulled herself up and did what she had to do to support herself and create a great life for her child. Kim finished school, got her MBA, and moved for the sake of support and then again for a job. She built community both on and off line.
Creator of the Experiencing Motherhood Single and Black podcast and community, Kim has an important and inspiring story to tell.
After searching to find single black moms who were podcasting and not finding any that were current, she decided to fill the gap by creating a podcast and building a community that not only supports each other online, but also offline. Kim is very passionate about educating single moms so that they can live the life they desire without feeling alone on the journey of Single Motherhood, which can become so isolating.
Because of the platform, moms all around the world (single and married) have been able to change the way they think, implement strategies to improve their life and the life of their children, and make connections with other moms.
As your kids get older, the cost of raising them increases.
They eat more, they may have expensive hobbies or passions, it costs more to buy them clothes. You’re more likely to overspend on older kids at the holidays, and it’s more expensive to take them on vacation.
In this episode, we talk about ways to cut some of those costs without compromising the quality of your life or your relationship with your kids.
Here’s a link to the free travel hacking course mentioned in the episode: ChooseFI Travel Rewards 101.
Each month, Debra will choose one iTunes review of the podcast and offer the writer of that review a one-hour free coaching session (financial, parenting, or other single mom concerns). So go over to iTunes now and enter your review! Then send me a note letting me know you wrote the review, so I can get in touch with you if you’re chosen for the free session.
Raising children is expensive!
But there ARE ways to reduce the costs. By a lot!
In this episode, Debra shares ideas for saving on everything from daycare to diapers, food, toys, and more. Make sure you tune in next week for Part 2, about reducing the costs of raising older children.
Links to some of the resources mentioned in the podcast:
- Some companies that subsidize childcare for employees include Patagonia, SAS Institute, and many hospitals.
- Article about cloth vs. disposable diapers
- Article about baby led weaning
- Jillian Johnsrud’s BRILLIANT article about the 3 toy rule
Each month, Debra will choose one iTunes review of the podcast and offer the writer of that review a one-hour free coaching session (financial, parenting, or other single mom concerns). So go over to iTunes now and enter your review!
Are you considering becoming a single mother by choice?
Sabiha Mustafa, a Certified Empowerment Coach and Mentor for single women longing to become moms, talks with Debra about all the ins and outs of making that decision. What are the common fears women have? What mindset shifts might be necessary? Will my kids be okay? What’s the process? The challenges – and joys – of single motherhood by choice are both significant.
This episode is a must-listen if you are thinking about making this leap.
Sabiha’s path to motherhood has been transformational. It has brought so much happiness, joy, and love to her life that she has decided to help other single women realize their dream to be a mom without jeopardizing their fertility waiting for the right partner, or settling with the wrong partner out of pressure and fear.
Sabiha feels honored to guide and support women in their 20s to mid-40s to make the best decisions for their lives so they’re able to experience the joy of being a mom and live happy, fulfilling, and meaningful lives. She uses her coaching sills, her own experience of becoming a single mother, as well as her various other personal and professional transitions to help women succeed and thrive at every stage of this rewarding and life-changing journey.
Starting on April 12, 2021, Sabiha will be hosting the Choosing Single Motherhood summit, a free, 5-day virtual event featuring over 10 experts. Register here to gain access to information about fertility treatments, choosing donor sperm, adoption, fertility nutrition, well being, managing emotions, and more.
Check out Sabiha’s website to learn more about her coaching and to contact her.
If you ache to stay home more with your child, but feel stuck because as a single mom you have to put food on the table, this episode is for you.
We’ll talk about ways to make that dream come true. It’s absolutely possible – with some creativity, hard work, and maybe some initial sacrifice.
Your kids won’t be kids for long, and their babyhood and childhood are so precious – and so fleeting. In this episode we’ll talk about ways you can to work fewer hours, cut expenses, and carve out more time to spend with your kids.
Here are links to podcasts mentioned in the episode:
None of us want to think about our own death, but planning for that possibility is SO important – especially for single moms. In this episode, Attorney Samantha Allen walks us through everything we need to do to protect our kids, from putting specific documents in place to choosing guardians to making our wishes known. Have your pen and paper or your notes app ready – you’re going to need them!
You’ll learn about the three documents to put in place before your child is even born, the process of choosing guardians, the difference between a will and a trust, the reasons you should put your wishes in writing – even in a document that may not be legally binding – and more.
Sam is a Massachusetts Attorney, Counselor at Law, and owner of Law Mom, LLC. Her legal experience started at a District Courthouse; from there, she worked for a big law firm in Boston, which led her to opening her general practice law firm. She felt that there was something more that she needed to do, but hadn’t figured it out yet. In 2019, the message became clear.
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I am young” or “I am healthy, I don’t need an estate plan?” Even as an attorney, the last thing Sam wanted to think about was an estate plan.
But after a healthy pregnancy, at age 33, Sam became deathly ill and almost lost her life after giving birth. After her own experience and learning that approximately 69% of parents do not have an estate plan for their family, she opened Law Mom, LLC. Law Mom is a Massachusetts Estate Planning Firm with a modern legal approach – focused on your specific family dynamic, keeping your family out of court and conflict.
You can reach Sam through her website or by phone at 781-277-4488.
Don’t miss this episode! Our first ever guest, Heather Wells, has an amazing and inspiring story to tell.
Heather Wells is a single mom of three children and creator of The Single Mom Blog and Podcast. After years of struggling as a single mother on government assistance programs, she was finally able to achieve self-sufficiency by starting her own business working from home. With a thriving consultant business, she now also focuses on helping other single mothers develop the skills and mindsets to live their best lives.
Heather shares her journey raising twins with special needs, shifting her mindset and her circumstances after eight years feeling stuck on public assistance, and facing down a scary medical diagnosis.